Thursday, 14 February 2013

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Curiosity Killed the Ditz #1 WHY

Writer @DitzWitDTits Asks WHY? and whether its acceptable to be direct? Take a look! Why? Just do it




Curiosity Killed the Ditz: WHY

Why; the three little letters that haunt my existence. From the moment I could speak I always wanted to know why. Now as an adult I am finding less and less people that want to answer my questions. I have been called nosey or weird, and angered many a person, with just those 3 letters. This is my story, quest you could call it, to ponder my Whys and if lucky find some answers.


Why do people laugh when asked direct questions?

Nervous energy amazes me. I love how when someone is put on the spot, even if they have been prepped for it, they react by laughing. I do it. We all do it. Even in typing, how often do we begin or end a sentence with LOL when we are uncomfortable. I guess in some ways, laughter is a shield we all have to protect ourselves.

Exhibit A:
Me: Can I ask you a direct question?
Them: Sure, ask away.
 Me: What are you passionate about?
Them: laugh, umm, well, beer, laugh…
Me: No silly, really, what makes you geek out
Them: laugh, well movies and sports

When asked a simple question that is about you, the first defense is to utilize the laugh shield. I have learned to push back on the shield and have been rewarded by learning some amazing things about amazing people. I have also been branded with the crazy stick.

Exhibit B:
Me: Can I ask you a direct question?
Them: Sure, ask away.
 Me: What are you passionate about?
Them: laugh, umm, well, beer, laugh…
Me: No silly, really, what makes you geek out
Them: …(look away)…I don’t know… umm so I need to talk to Bob

Bob: Hey who was that, she seems nice
Them: No dude. Too intense, you know, potential crazy…
Bob: Good to know. Thanks.

Now, I like laughter and it is the sound track for most of my day. Am I doing what I am criticizing others for? Or is there another thought…

 In the words of one of the greatest comedian George Carlin “Hey, I'm going to knock you off-balance with this being funny, but I'm going to open your mind - and maybe what you think is right, isn't”.  This eludes to the fact that laughter, while it can be used as a shield, it also can be used as an amplifier of thoughts. How often do you listen closer to a friend telling a funny story instead of a friend crying their eyes out?

I don’t think there is an answer to my initial question but there are some points to ponder from my musings…

Use laughter to amplify you and those around you
Use laughter to protect you through tough times
But don’t…
Let laughter shield you from the wonders of knowing people and letting people know you

Keep asking questions.

Love,
DD

Twitter: @DitzWitDTits

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