Curiosity
Killed the Ditz: WHY
Why;
the three little letters that haunt my existence. From the moment I could speak
I always wanted to know why. Now as an adult I am finding less and less people
that want to answer my questions. I have been called nosey or weird, and
angered many a person, with just those 3 letters. This is my story, quest you
could call it, to ponder my Whys and if lucky find some answers.
Why
do people laugh when asked direct questions?
Nervous
energy amazes me. I love how when someone is put on the spot, even if they have
been prepped for it, they react by laughing. I do it. We all do it. Even in
typing, how often do we begin or end a sentence with LOL when we are
uncomfortable. I guess in some ways, laughter is a shield we all have to protect
ourselves.
Exhibit
A:
Me:
Can I ask you a direct question?
Them:
Sure, ask away.
Me: What are you passionate about?
Them:
laugh, umm, well, beer, laugh…
Me:
No silly, really, what makes you geek out
Them:
laugh, well movies and sports
When
asked a simple question that is about you, the first defense is to utilize the
laugh shield. I have learned to push back on the shield and have been rewarded
by learning some amazing things about amazing people. I have also been branded
with the crazy stick.
Exhibit
B:
Me:
Can I ask you a direct question?
Them:
Sure, ask away.
Me: What are you passionate about?
Them:
laugh, umm, well, beer, laugh…
Me:
No silly, really, what makes you geek out
Them:
…(look away)…I don’t know… umm so I need to talk to Bob
Bob:
Hey who was that, she seems nice
Them:
No dude. Too intense, you know, potential crazy…
Bob:
Good to know. Thanks.
Now,
I like laughter and it is the sound track for most of my day. Am I doing what I
am criticizing others for? Or is there another thought…
In the words of one of the greatest comedian
George Carlin “Hey, I'm going to knock you off-balance with this being funny,
but I'm going to open your mind - and maybe what you think is right, isn't”. This eludes to the fact that laughter, while
it can be used as a shield, it also can be used as an amplifier of thoughts.
How often do you listen closer to a friend telling a funny story instead of a
friend crying their eyes out?
I
don’t think there is an answer to my initial question but there are some points
to ponder from my musings…
Use
laughter to amplify you and those around you
Use
laughter to protect you through tough times
But
don’t…
Let
laughter shield you from the wonders of knowing people and letting people know
you
Keep
asking questions.
Love,
DD
Twitter:
@DitzWitDTits
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