Curiosity
Killed the Ditz: JOY
Why;
the three little letters that haunt my existence. From the moment I could speak
I always wanted to know why. Now as an adult I am finding less and less people
that want to answer my questions. I have been called nosey or weird, and
angered many a person, with just those 3 letters. This is my story, quest you
could call it, to ponder my Whys and if lucky find some answers.
Why
does childlike passion and joy for life become a negative trait when you are an
adult?
Never
take nice for weak and never take naivety for dumb. I am often underestimated
because I am very nice and very naïve. It sucks but I have come to live with
that is who I am and that is what is going to happen. The question I pose
though is a bit different. I have a childlike passion and tenacity for things
that often is deemed as bad. These are viewed as naïve and I am viewed as dumb
for even voicing them.
Exhibit
A:
Me:
Let’s go dance?
Them:
umm, no music.
Me: so?
Them:
umm, no dance floor…
Me:
and….
Them:
no.
Me:
please, it will be fun
Them:
not a chance. Hey there is Bill, talk to you later.
If
the same conversation happened between 8 year olds it would be a bit different
than between 34 year olds.
Exhibit
B:
Me:
Let’s go dance?
Them:
Awesome. Let’s sing.
Me: Yea! We can sing and dance under the stars
Them:
This is the best idea ever!
I
blame the cool kids. Somewhere between 12 and 18 we all conform to the “norm”
of not showing too much excitement or passion for anything. You must be “cool”.
Don’t care too much or people will think you are weak and not want to be around
you. You must damper your spirit to fit someone else’s idea of what you should
be.
Only
recently society is starting to give credence to the childlike passion we
possess as adults. It is now called “Geeking Out”. I am good with that. At least now we can throw our hearts and
minds into something and not be ostracized for it.
Let’s
take the term “geeking out” and replace it with, “I get childlike joy from”. So
much less “cool” but it means the same. It is okay to be joyful and it is okay
to be happy.
In
the words of Leo Buscaglia- author :
“Ancient
Egyptians believed that upon death they would be asked two questions and their
answers would determine whether they could continue their journey in the
afterlife. The first question was, 'Did you bring joy?' The second was, 'Did
you find joy?”
These
questions are so important. We seek them out without even meaning to. Take
Twitter and Facebook. How often do we go on these sites to bring joy or to find
joy with others?
I
need to wrap this up and as always, there is no direct answer to my Whys. I can
leave you with this though, every day, ask yourself these questions:
Did
I bring Joy?
Did
I find Joy?
By
keeping these questions alive, we can take “geeking out” from a fad to a way of
life. (plus, anybody named Joy will become very popular J)
Keep
asking questions.
Love,
DD
Twitter:
@DitzWitDTits
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