Thursday, 21 February 2013


Curiosity Killed the Ditz #2 JOY

Writer @DitzWitDTits asks WHY we hate being asked WHY! Being direct? Awkward or Acceptable?

Curiosity Killed the Ditz: JOY

Why; the three little letters that haunt my existence. From the moment I could speak I always wanted to know why. Now as an adult I am finding less and less people that want to answer my questions. I have been called nosey or weird, and angered many a person, with just those 3 letters. This is my story, quest you could call it, to ponder my Whys and if lucky find some answers.

Why does childlike passion and joy for life become a negative trait when you are an adult?

Never take nice for weak and never take naivety for dumb. I am often underestimated because I am very nice and very naïve. It sucks but I have come to live with that is who I am and that is what is going to happen. The question I pose though is a bit different. I have a childlike passion and tenacity for things that often is deemed as bad. These are viewed as naïve and I am viewed as dumb for even voicing them.

Exhibit A:
Me: Let’s go dance?
Them: umm, no music.
 Me: so?
Them: umm, no dance floor…
Me: and….
Them: no.
Me: please, it will be fun
Them: not a chance. Hey there is Bill, talk to you later.

If the same conversation happened between 8 year olds it would be a bit different than between 34 year olds.

Exhibit B:
Me: Let’s go dance?
Them: Awesome. Let’s sing.
 Me: Yea! We can sing and dance under the stars
Them: This is the best idea ever!

I blame the cool kids. Somewhere between 12 and 18 we all conform to the “norm” of not showing too much excitement or passion for anything. You must be “cool”. Don’t care too much or people will think you are weak and not want to be around you. You must damper your spirit to fit someone else’s idea of what you should be.

Only recently society is starting to give credence to the childlike passion we possess as adults. It is now called “Geeking Out”. I am good with that.  At least now we can throw our hearts and minds into something and not be ostracized for it.

Let’s take the term “geeking out” and replace it with, “I get childlike joy from”. So much less “cool” but it means the same. It is okay to be joyful and it is okay to be happy.

In the words of Leo Buscaglia- author :

“Ancient Egyptians believed that upon death they would be asked two questions and their answers would determine whether they could continue their journey in the afterlife. The first question was, 'Did you bring joy?' The second was, 'Did you find joy?”

These questions are so important. We seek them out without even meaning to. Take Twitter and Facebook. How often do we go on these sites to bring joy or to find joy with others?

I need to wrap this up and as always, there is no direct answer to my Whys. I can leave you with this though, every day, ask yourself these questions:

Did I bring Joy?
Did I find Joy?

By keeping these questions alive, we can take “geeking out” from a fad to a way of life. (plus, anybody named Joy will become very popular J)

Keep asking questions.


Twitter: @DitzWitDTits


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