Thursday, 21 March 2013

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Curiosity Killed the Ditz #6 Closure

Another Great Post from Resident Life Blogger @DitzwitDtits writes about Closure. Check it out.



Curiosity Killed the Ditz: Closure
Why; the three little words that haunt my existence. From the moment I could speak I always wanted to know why. Now as an adult I am finding less and less people that want to answer my questions. I have been called nosy or weird, and angered many a person, with just those 3 letters. This is my story, quest you could call it, to try and find answers to my Whys.


Why is closure so hard to come by?

What do you do when you want to close down a relationship? Do you bother to tell the other person? With the age of technology, we build relationships that are not face to face. This is great, except it has made it all to easy for us to ignore unpleasant things, like saying goodbye or I am no longer interested. Forget "Dear John," letters, lets just block the person. Even better, just pretend they don't exist.

You may say "But Ditz, I don't want to hurt their feelings...or it's not real so why does it matter". Not only is it hurtful, rude, and insensitive, it is also a great way to drive a normal person nutty. 

Example:
Judy: Thanks for the great talk Bev. We need to do this again.
Bev: Absolutely. It has been great.
1 day passes:
Judy: (Bev's VM) Hi Bev, I have tickets for a show on Friday, are you interested in going?
2 days pass:
Judy: (Bev's VM) Hi Bev, Sorry to bug you but I wanted to know about Friday. Its fine if you can't go, i just need to know.
3 days pass:
Judy: (Bev's VM) Hi Bev, please call me. I really need to figure out my plans for Friday. Thanks.
4 days pass:
Judy: (Bev's VM) OK Bev, I get the picture. Sorry to have bothered you, don't bother calling back.
Bev To Bonny: You know, I had fun with Judy but I just don't have time for another relationship. Can you believe she just went crazy on me. Calling everyday and getting all bent out of shape when i didn't call right back. Yikes!

Sound familiar? Now Judy and Bev could be friends, coworkers, dating, it doesn't matter the situation is the same. All Bev would have had to do is call Judy back and say I can't go Friday, or say I had fun the other night but I am too busy right now to do much of anything outside of my normal schedule. By doing nothing, she essentially ruined a start of something good and hurt a person that did nothing wrong but be nice.

Alright the lecture is over. I can't force people to be nice to one another. What I can do is show you what jerks you are being. Grow a set and answer a person! 

So to close this up, Why is closure so hard to come by?...We have become complacent to common kindness and decency. There is still time to stop this. All you have to do is when you are asked a question, answer it truthfully. That's it.      




Keep questioning.

Love,

DD
Twitter: @DitzWitDTits

1 comments:

  1. Hit the nail on the head. Not only did you put a mirror to society's face, you made it look,truly look. We are all guilty of not being able to close certain aspects of our lives, regardless of degree. Young, old, rich or poor we all have devolved in social interaction when it comes to actual human contact. Technology may have made our world a touch away, but we're the ones out of touch.

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