Thursday, 13 June 2013


Curiosity Killed the Ditz #17: Why do we talk negativly to ourselves?

Why; the three little letters that haunt my existence. From the moment I could speak I always wanted to know why. Now as an adult I am finding less and less people that want to answer my questions. I have been called nosey or weird, and angered many a person, with just those 3 letters. This is my story, quest you could call it, to try and find answers to my Whys.


This is one that is difficult for me. I am notorious for berating and saying things to myself that I wouldn't say to my worst enemy. Part of it is my social anxiety disorder but the other part is just the way I am. Buy Why?

When I look at the different angles of this issue, various reasons come to mind.

1. I'm just being honest with myself
Now this is not true. If I was honest, then I would provide both sides of a situation, not just the negative. For some reason though our brains seem to focus on the negative first.

 2. I need an ego check
This is true. Sometimes, I get a bit full of myself and need to check my ego. Eh, what can you do when you are this great. JK

3. I bully myself instead of bulling others
This one is partially true. I learn from others and don't want to make the same mistakes. When I see them have an error in judgment (my opinion), I try not to follow. When I do, I get down on myself. Now, I could in the beginning, try to bully them into doing what I feel is right and avoid the situation but I don't want them to feel bad. I would rather take it all on myself.

Hmmmm, other than being a bit crazy, lol, I may have a point with all this. I don't think I am alone when I say I speak worse to myself than others. This needs to change. I have been working on some visualization or relaxation techniques that have helped. An example: Try to isolate muscle groups from your toes on up. Tighten the muscles and hold for 30 sec. This will distract your mind from the negative thoughts.

 Give that a try and let me know if it helps you. Also, I would love to hear if you struggle the same way I do. Us Negative Talkers need to stick together. 

Keep questioning.



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